…And other stories 3

Hello!! and welcome ,
If you read my blog you already know the gist with the “and other stories” category, if you don’t you can read the first and second one here and here

Its like your favorite bloggers monthly recap only better, so this month I’m sharing some thing I’ve learnt /noticed from  last month and maybe this month since this post is coming a little late,to think I was so excited to write my next and other stories last month… Anyway let’s get started

On doing what you love regardless of how many other people are doing it

I’ve not done a lot of stuff because I’m always thinking there are so many people doing it, I want to do something different/be different, but I’ve realized lately that it doesn’t matter how many other people are doing it, if its exactly what you want to do then you should be doing it..  No Excuses..
So you shouldn’t say ” oh I can’t be a fashion blogger” because there are so many other fashion bloggers, or I can’t be a make up artist because there are already so many make up artists… Just do you, do whatever you want, there’s always space for you, you can make your own mark in whatever you choose to do.

Brunches, parties and all
Does anyone know why yoruba parties are so successful?, its simple I’d tell you its”Food!” You can’t throw a good party without good food, because people always remember the food and judge the whole party by the food (I may be speaking only for myself) but if you are going to orgarnise an event make sure the food is not only good but also arrives early… Thank you in advance.

Bloggers and brands:
I wish I had written this earlier when I was still angry, sometimes not speaking when you’re angry is highly overrated
I’ve found that people find it difficult to pay for any form of creativity, I was recently assisting a brand that only wanted to pay in compliments
Brand: “you are beautiful,and your blog Is nice,it’d would be good for you to promote our products on your blog”
me: thank you but how much do you want pay
Then you’d start hearing some cool stories about Exposure.. But can I eat that exposure

So I shared this on facebook


I think we as bloggers and creatives generally have to stop accepting less. I rest my case.

On learning not to judge
You know me not my story: people can seem one way on the outside and be totally different on the inside, you know how people say don’t judge until you’ve heard both sides of the story, I say even after you’ve heard both sides still don’t judge in fact don’t bother to hear any side, except you just like gist like me ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚… Moral of the story: don’t judge or form an opinion about someone or something based on hear say. I’m still learning

Twentyfour and Unmarried
In this post I discussed about marriage , and societal pressure and all of that and how even if your parents are not pressuring you to get married your church will,only this past Sunday we had one of those let’s pray for the singles in church and that their husbands will find them, I will not talk about the fact that nobody lines up the single men in church to pray that they find spouses, the prayers for men are about how they’d find good jobs and their businesses will prosper, so its me because I’m a woman that does not need good job and prosperous business…  I’m not angry pray your own let me pray my own.
The people that actually annoy me are the ladies who want to transfer their own family and life pressures to you
Today a fellow sister in the lord called me she was talking about a charity thing that they organised as seed to finding husbands… I guess. then she said “I’m sure you are above 24, and you are more than due for marriage”
“Firstly Sisteh I’m not above 24, and even if I was, I’m more than due for marriage only when I’m ready to marry and I’ve found a man to marry, don’t rub your desperation on me…. Its smelling”. I didn’t say that to her, but that’s what I should have said.

I hope you enjoyed this months stories, there were some other things I wanted to write about, unfortunately i failed to expantiate on them, so I can’t remember what story i wanted to tell,I hope I remember before I’m due to write the next set.

Leave me your comments, thoughts and maybe even suggestions on what to talk about next. I absolutely love to hear from you.

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Thank you and God bless you ๐Ÿ™

Published by tonyeigbani

21 year old Nigerian. Writing about my personal style, fashion, beauty and life style. Book lover,wine lover,lipstick lover,love lover.

29 thoughts on “…And other stories 3

  1. Hahahaha. I enjoyed reading this. Yep, there’s almost always space for whatever you want to do. Loool @ parties and food. My post today on weddings was slightly related and everyone’s saying food is so important. As for creatives not being paid, everyone seems to complain about that. Sigh! That marriage talk is something else entirely. Not sure why people make this so soo important. It’s not!
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    1. Thank you for your comment. I just read the post, very enlightening.
      The marriage talk is so annoying, I’m starting to not like family events and even church because of this.. So stressful .


  2. That marriage part killed me…Thank God you didn’t say that to her. And I totally agree with you in what you said about bloggers not accepting less, being creative is not a days job it takes a whole lot of process and people need to understand that. Really enjoyed reading this ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ‘


    1. I was so close, in fact I had even started saying it but self control is one of the things I’m learning as I get older. Nobody realises how much of a task it is to put things together ,even words, it’s annoying. I’m glad you enjoyed it. Thank you for reading.

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  3. Lol at facebook post, but true. It’s nice you kept that out there, the free lookers should cast their net on other sea not yours.. Lol husband seed, Some women love looking for what’s isn’t looking for them yet under the umbrella of society view. May we not fall victim. Yes oh food first as a certified foodie, that’s our magnet.


    1. Thank you oh my sister, there’s no free lunch here.
      Amen… It’s super stressful and pointless, I’m not about that life,plus I’m still a baby girl.
      Food is extremely important . Lol!


  4. Oh my….I was laughing out loud for real, don’t rub your desperation on me๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ

    And about getting paid, some brands are just…I don’t even know what to say again…

    Well said and we really should stop accepting less!



    1. I’m happy it made you laugh ๐Ÿ˜ . Brands are just looking for free promotion and advertisement but they’d gladly pay Linda ikeji.. SMH. I hope we actually stop accepting less. Thanks Funke


  5. I think it’s right to let people know where you stand.
    All these brands and human beings that don’t want you to eat.. Say bye bye to Suffering and smiling.
    Although i am not one to struggle for food at parties or get togethers, if I don’t eat at the party or the food isn’t satisfactory I always feel bad to my blood and bone marrow sef.


  6. It’s smelling lol, I can imagine your face when you were thinking it lol. I don’t know why they feel it’s marriage that’s on everyone’s mind.
    Yes oh food is key , you can’t go wrong with it.
    Enjoyed the post


    1. Lol! It’s so tiring to be honest, marriage might be on my mind but it’s not the first thing on my mind and I wish people would understand that.
      Food is the keyest key… Lol.
      Thanks Sogie.


  7. I totally enjoyed reading this and I can relate to every single one of it. The marriage pressure is too real, mehn. My mum was using style to ask me about it recently. That was when I knew shiii has gotten real. My parents own I can tolerate, but other people? MBA! Don’t rub your desperation on me! Lol.
    Yasss to doing whatever you want! There is enough space for every one to shine :).



    1. I’m glad you enjoyed reading it, lol! I like how subtle mothers are with mounting pressure, although I think they lose the subtlety as you get older. Hopefully we don’t experience that. Yes… Thank you.
      Thank you for reading and for your comment.


  8. On creativity and getting paid, never settle for less, if you don’t blow your trumpet, who would help you blow it? Serving good food and choice drinks at parties, I thank God I am a full fledged Yoruba woman, we do it best. Do what you have to do regardless of how many people are in it just find a creative way to be different from everyone, find your niche, that thing that stands you out and be sure to have a target audience in mind. Now to the marriage issue, don’t blame the sister please, blame the SOCIETY, at a certain age, our society especially expects you to be married at a certain age, and you can only imagine how inadequate it makes a lot of young women feel Tamuno, thank God you didn’t tell her anything like that, even though I know you didn’t like the fact that she alluded to “I’m sure you’re above 24 and ripe enough for marriage”, and please, If you are a parent and u’re reading this, please take it easy on the young women, they need to settle down, yes, but must they do that with every Tom, Dick and Harry? The pressure on young women to get married is one great reason why the marriage institution has been bastardized so much, so cool it please. I thoroughly enjoyed your piece Tamunotonye. Cheers!


  9. I love reading rants. More than every other kind of post, they are such amazing reads. This rant put a crooked smile on my face throughout.
    I remember once, I went late to church and when I was giving my tithe to a pastor, he asked me my age and spent the whole prayer period asking that my husband find me.
    Once again, I loved this ranty type post. Thanks for writing it.


    1. I loved writing it,so I’m glad you enjoyed reading it… Posts like this are also my favourite to read and write while hoping someone finds at least one thing interesting and reletable.Thank you for reading and for your comment.

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